Any Help for This Cheater?

[leighdu]

Ok, so I have a guy friend...and since we were teens he has never been able to remain monogamous to any of his girlfriends, and there have been several. He got married 5 years ago and ended up cheating on his wife a few times. He is now 30 and and wants to date one of my best friends. She seems to like him to. I am so afraid for her because she gets hurt very easily and his past record is so shady when it comes to relationships. He says though that he wouldn't ever hurt her. Is there any chance that this guy will ever change? Maybe mature as he ages?

[Misty]

In my experience men do not mature with age! Sorry to all you good guys out there I do know you exist!

I would just tell your friend what you have told us so she knows the kind of guy he is. You never know he may have changed.

Just stuck by your friend just in case she needs you.

[leighdu]

Originally Posted by Misty

In my experience men do not mature with age! Sorry to all you good guys out there I do know you exist!

I would just tell your friend what you have told us so she knows the kind of guy he is. You never know he may have changed.

Just stuck by your friend just in case she needs you.

She already knows how he is and she just doesn't seem to care. He is one of those smooth talkers, and every girl that likes him thinks that she will be the one that can change him. I seriously doubt any female will ever change him. He will have to want to change himself. I just don't know that this is possible given his track record over and over.

[rosebud]

He can only change himself. A cheater is still a cheater and doesn't deserve another third, fourth, fifth or sixth chance. If he continues to be that way, more women that he'll meet along the way will get hurt. Maybe to him, women are like sex objects. I think he doesn't understand what love means.

[Vulcan]

All I can say is it takes years for people to change. If she wants to have him in the future, the best thing she can do now is let him go. He will not change if she keeps coming closer like the women in his past have.

That way, she will set herself apart from the others communicating the message his behavior is not acceptable or she very well may move on and find someone who can give her what she needs.